Doms Have Always Been Sexy!

It took years for me to decide what I liked and wanted Sexually. I had lot of responsibility put on me at a young age. When looking for a partner I wanted someone who could lighten that load. Someone that could give me some sort of balance. I had spent so much time as the leader who took care of all the problems that I wanted someone that would make the decisions at home.
Movies also played a part in my desire’s. John Wayne was the epitome of what a man should be. He was tall, strong, handsome and in charge. In the movie McClintoc the scene of him chasing his wife to give her a deserved spanking was not only amusing it was sexy. In those days it was sexy. In those days it wasn’t unusual for men to express their dominance in such a way. Televisions “I Love Lucy” had more than one episode ending with a spanking. Elvis Presley also earned some respect in the movie “Blue Hawaii” after spanking one of the young women that had gone out of her way to cause trouble.
My point is that in that era it was expected and sexy for a man to seize control by force at times. And the line between abuse and spanking was not a thin one at all.
It is common that Alpha males sometimes seek a woman to dominate them. It is a way to relieve the tension that builds inside after spending so much time carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders. I admit I know little of that part of the lifestyle but I’m learning more and more.
Sex has often been an outlet for stress and BDSM is an extension of that stress relief. Some will always consider it as aberrant sexual behavior but as long as both parties are consenting adults and agree to limits there is nothing aberrant about it. Both the Dom and sub want the arrangement and enjoy their parts. That is NOT abuse.
Now I have a question for you. When did you first realize that you were attracted to the BDSM lifestyle?

Author: J. L. Kramer

I'm a writer from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. I began writing at an early age completing my first screenplay at the age of twelve. I continued writing journals, poems (that were admittedly horrible) and songs. At the age of fourteen I wrote my first novella. I was widowed in the year of 2000. My mother, daughter and sister give me the courage to wake up every morning and face the next blank page and blinking cursor. I love animals and have two dogs and two cats. My best friend Kathy is my biggest fan and reads everything I write (regardless of how trashy it is). I'm also her biggest fan because she is also the one person that keeps me sane. I love music and grew up playing two instruments and dreamed of being the drummer in a rock band. I also love traveling and hope one day to make it to Europe. I would especially enjoy going to Ireland and exploring the entire island.

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